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Not My Baby on Board Part3

Hello friends, and welcome back to another edition of “Not My Baby on Board”. When we last left off, I was going to go through the medical steps involved in becoming a surrogate. While it’s not quite as tough as brain surgery, there are still quite a few steps involved. So without further ado, here we go.

After having Skyped with the intended parents and agreed that we were right for each other, it was time to make sure that this oven was in tip-top shape. One of the steps involved in this was meeting with a shrink and answering some questions to make sure that I wasn’t crazy and really wanted to do this.

I’d been told that these were standard questions but they ranged from “How are your relationships at home?” to “Have you ever thought of killing your spouse?” (My response to that one was a very mumbled “All the time”, followed quickly by “Hmm? No I haven’t”). This meeting was supposed to be in fabulous Las Vegas where all of the actual medical testing and procedures were to take place, but the psychiatrist was on vacation. So rather than being in a nice doctor’s office, relaxing in a nice chair, I had to answer those lovely questions at home with two little ones running around. Apparently a little gallows humor when it comes to my spouse is a plus, because only a couple of days later I was in Vegas.

I traveled with my friend, Doula, and business partner Jenn. It was in Vegas that the medical procedures began, and took a lot less time than I thought they would. These were simple things like having blood drawn and also having saline pumped into my uterus to check for any defects via ultrasound. Like I said, these didn’t really take that long, and I got the results before I flew back out too. Everything was great and we were right on track.

The best part of the trip was getting to actually meet the intended parents. We got to have dinner together, and they were adorable! I can’t tell you much because they are international super spies (not really) but I assure you they are absolutely wonderful and I am eager to help them grow their family.

After arriving home, and being cleared medically, I was tasked with starting all of legal side of things. Much like a game of telephone I started with all my desires for birth and prenatal care and after it gets passed around to lawyers and the intended parents I eventually ended up with a contract. In my case it was nowhere near the standard surrogacy contract and instead, mainly because of my career path as a doula and two previous unmedicated births, I was able to have a lot of natural sway to our plans.

Did I mention how fantastic the couple I am working with is? Onward and upward, things start moving quickly after this step. I’m excited to tell you all about it next time.

Working with families has been Lauren’s passion for over ten years. Her tremendous work ethic and devotion to helping parents has made her a must have in the birth setting, postpartum, and beyond.
Lauren serves her community as an educator, via postpartum planning curriculum and as a Labor and Postpartum Doula. She has a certification in breastfeeding counseling and started her training with DONA; being mentored by established Doulas in Colorado Springs. Lauren is now a professional member of ProDoula and a pre-certified Labor and Postpartum Doula. Lauren will be taking additional training in placenta encapsulation and business by the end of the Summer.

Paving the way, Lauren is the Co‐owner of Colorado Mountain Doulas LLC provides the community with much needed education, local resources, sibling, postpartum, and labor Doula services.

Lauren is the mother of two young children, and has been married since 2008. She loves to cook and entertain for her friends and family in her home in Colorado Springs.

Loved ones and a new baby

Everyone loves having family and friends to help after bringing a new baby home. It’s such a special time, of course all your loved ones want to meet and hold that new baby. But what about the groceries, laundry, dishes, and older siblings? Life still needs to be managed, schedules still need to be maintained. It can be overwhelming to say the least. The last thing that needs to be added to the plate is entertaining and hosting guests. A little postpartum planning can ensure that your after baby help doesn’t turn into house guests who need to be entertained.

Making a short list of things that need to be done around the house for family members to help out with is easier than making requests in the moment. For older siblings you can make a short list of some local activities. This will allow family members some guidance with getting everyone out of the house while you get some extra alone time with the baby. Better yet, hiring a postpartum doula can alleviate the need to ask loved ones to take care of the household at all. If there are no older siblings to care for, giving guests a list of sites around town is a great way to keep guests entertained, without you being the one to do it. I have included an example of a few activities for the Colorado Springs area. What can you come up with for your area?

Postpartum Activities for Grandparents and family members:

 

The North Pole is a great place for grandparents to take other siblings to for the day. They have all kinds of rides, gift shops, and snack shops to enjoy. Visit the website for more information northpolecolorado.com.

 

Garden of the Gods is a wonderful place to encourage your guests to check out. Its a great place to drive through or stop and walk the trails. The grandparents can enjoy this with or without other siblings. For more information check out the website www.gardenofgods.com.

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Manitou Springs is a cute little mountain town that is fun to visit for the day. There are tons of little shops Grandma and Grandpa would find interesting as well as restaurants and an arcade for sibling fun. You can find more information on the website. manitousprings.org

Planning for your postpartum is just as important as planning for your birth. A few simple lists can make all the difference with maintaining your household. Which will ensure that you and your partner enjoy all the bonding time possible with your new bundle of joy.

Baby Led Weaning gives infants control over the food that they eat, and fosters good eating habits for life!

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Baby Led Weaning- Beyond the Purees

Colorado Springs mom Michelle Rodriguez is no stranger to babies and food. Michelle is a La Leche League leader and mom to Remy, age 2. She is an incredibly knowledgable individual who is compassionate as well as driven to help parents in our city. She is also a respected instructor for Baby Led Weaning classes, helping families decide how to feed first solid foods to their children.

I first met Michelle at a La Leche League meeting when she and I were both leaders-in-training for the breastfeeding group. Her warm smile drew me in and I quickly found that she was very easy to talk with. We worked together to complete some of the prerequisites for leadership, and I grew to deeply respect her calm nature, her thoughtful responses, and her devotion to mothering her toddler.

I spoke with Michelle via telephone this week and asked her questions that some of our readers might be interested in regarding baby led weaning. Here’s a small part of our conversation.


Michelle, thank you for giving us an interview so that our readers can learn from you. What exactly is Baby Led Weaning?

Baby Led Weaning (also referred to as BLW) is a method to introduce solid foods to your baby. With BLW, your baby is encouraged to take the lead. Your child gets the opportunity to choose what to eat, how much to eat, and how to eat the food. BLW is a hands-off method for the parents, which is respectful of your baby’s needs and wants.

How did you become involved in teaching baby led weaning classes?

I attended Mommy and Me yoga classes at Enso Prenatal, which introduced me to a community of parents with children who were older than mine. I learned about BLW and was intrigued. I read Gil Rapley’s book, Baby Led Weaning, but I thought it would be great for people to have the information, resources, and recipes that came from in-person support.

What kinds of extra support do you offer for parents who take your class?

I keep in touch with the families who take my classes. I give them my email address and phone number, and I also add them to a secret Facebook group just for caregivers who have taken my BLW class. I’m not always good about posting in that group, but it’s great for families to be able to connect with each other and give support via the group.

If you could give one piece of advice for families practicing baby led weaning with their child, what would it be?

I would encourage families to not worry about the amount of food their baby is eating when their baby is under 12 months. Before that first birthday, solids are an additional sensory play time rather than a mealtime. Keep breastfeeding so that your child has adequate calorie intake, but don’t stress about the solids! If your child is still not ingesting many solids after 12 months, I would advise you to speak with your medical provider and look for more opportunities to add extra calories into his or her daily routine.


I was so grateful to Michelle for allowing me to interview her. Michelle is a wonderful resource in our community, and I truly thank her for the time she spent with me! For more information or to register for Michelle’s Baby Led Weaning class, visit her page here.

Sarah is a birth and postpartum doula who provides services through Colorado Mountain Doulas. She is a La Leche League leader, a volunteer with her local babywearing group, church choir member, and mother to two young children. Sarah enjoys cooking, reading, and music.
http://www.florabirthservices.com

Reproductive Justice in Colorado Springs

Colorado Mountain Doulas commitment to supporting GROWING FAMILIES in Colorado Springs goes far beyond the “typical” mainstream, nuclear family. We hold a special place in our hearts for those whose families don’t come about in the traditional way. Supporting families through FERTILITY, ADOPTION, SURROGACY, and LOSS is of primary importance to our business model and the local LGBT community is a large part of that. Colorado Mountain Doulas and the Colorado Springs Queer Collective have begun building strong relationships in the local community. This October, we’re turning our attention to Reproductive Justice in Colorado Springs.

Colorado Springs Queer Collective fosters community leadership, education, and empowerment. Our mission is to address inequality, re-invest in the local economy, and celebrate the creative contributions of queer and trans people. We are a group of artists, entrepreneurs and everyday changemakers who are committed to transforming our communities. We lead with a visible commitment to intersectional and intergenerational work.

Colorado Mountain Doulas believe that ALL families should be nurtured and treated with respect. Our support teams help families make empowered decisions about the care they receive continuously, through early preparations, pregnancy, labor, birth and the postpartum period. Colorado Mountain Doulas is also dedicated to elevating professional Doulas by empowering them to make sustainable contributions within the community.

What Does Reproductive Justice Mean?

Colorado Springs Queer Collective believes that “Reproductive Justice exists when all people have the social, political and economic power and resources to make healthy decisions about their gender, bodies, sexuality and families”. We’re also deeply interested in and invested in the history of this movement since the term reproductive justice was first coined by women of color organizing to improve their communities in 1994. That’s around the same time the first International Bill of Gender Rights was drafted in 1993, so there are a lot of important intersections between the reproductive justice movement and queer/trans families locally.

How Does the Reproductive Justice Movement Affect Local Families?

The ability to make healthy decisions for ourselves and our families is a universal issue.

In the broadest sense, the economics are clear. Today, 13% of all Coloradans and 17% of Colorado’s children are living in poverty while 1 in 7 Coloradans are facing insecurity. These figures are even more staggering if we consider that the Federal Poverty Guideline is only around $24,000 gross annually for a family of 4. The issues are even more pressing for LGBTQ families. Trans people, for example, are 4 times as likely to live below the federal poverty guideline and 2.5 times as likely to be unemployed making it more difficult for them to provide for themselves or their families as a result of discrimination and inequality within our communities.

LGBTQ people also face barriers to reproductive justice in the medical and mental health fields. For example, they may have difficulty finding a queer/ trans friendly provider in their area or be unsure where to access information about safer sex and healthy relationships. LGBTQ people who wish to start families may also face particular challenges as they navigate their adoption, birthing, surrogacy, and other parenting options locally.

We want to ensure that all families are treated fairly and have the opportunity to thrive in Colorado Springs.

How Did Colorado Mountain Doulas Get Involved?

Colorado Mountain Doulas initiated a partnership with Colorado Springs Queer Collective after a LGBTQ Strategic Planning workshop in March of 2015. Our organizations recently re-connected at a Springs Equality Chamber of Commerce meeting where we discussed strengthening local LGBTQ health networks. Together, our vision is to establish a bold new precedent for inclusive care and professional leadership.

Colorado Mountain Doulas is excited to help improve the birthing experience for all families. For LGBTQ families in particular, the goal is to create a safe and welcoming environment for queer and trans people to learn more about their options and resources. For fellow birthing professionals, the goals is to serve as mutual resources in an expanding network of inclusive providers and practices including physicians, mental health workers, etc. CSQC verified businesses will receive an electronic badge for their websites and Colorado Mountain Doulas is one of the first in the Springs to be awarded this distinction.

How Else Are You Connecting with People in Colorado Springs?

Colorado Mountain Doulas is excited to co-facilitate a session on Reproductive Justice at the Colorado Springs Queer Collective Leadership Summit for 75-100 participants on October 24th.

We’ve reached out to more than 25 organizations to join the discussion so far including Rocky Mountain Planned Parenthood, The Elephant Circle, Colorado Organization for Latina Opportunity and Reproductive Rights, local faith leaders, and more. Everyone is welcome to attend and participate!

We’ll be sure to make related resources available on our websites after summit day. Beyond the summit, we look forward to partnering on some continuing education credits and professional development opportunities to cover these topics in greater depth for those who’d like to help take the lead with us in 2016.

Sounds Great! How Can I Get Involved?

To learn more about Colorado Mountain Doulas, visit www.coloradomountaindoulas.com. To learn more about Colorado Springs Queer Collective or register for the leadership summit, visit www.csqueercollective.org or contact Adison Q. Petti: Leadership Development Coordinator: 720-862-6126 or [email protected]

Thanks for taking an interest in Reproductive Justice in Colorado Springs!

Written By: Colorado Springs Queer Collective: August 2015

A passion for helping families to make educated decisions about their families and their birth choices has lead Jenn to become a great source of information for many across the country. She has been educating families on their choices and guiding them to find their own voice in maternity care since 2002.

Jenn is a certified Labor Doula, beginning her studies with CAPPA, taking many additional trainings along the way and is recertifying with ProDoula in 2015. She is also a trained childbirth educator and Postpartum Doula teaching childbirth preparation classes, and also creating her own curriculum for a pre and early pregnancy workshop focused on families who are just beginning to plan for a family, into the 2nd trimester.

Today Jenn is the Co-owner of Colorado Mountain Doulas LLC, providing the community with much needed education, local resources, sibling, postpartum, and labor Doula services.

When she is not guiding families through their birthing year, Jenn is living in Black Forest, CO with her husband and two children on their hobby farm.

http://codoulas.com
Favorite Books for growing families BLOG

Our Favorite Books for Your Growing Family

Do you remember when your parents use to read to you as a child?

Do you remember when you first began to read for yourself?

Do you remember when you first began to read to your child?

Many parents wonder “When should I start reading to my child?” While the answer to this varies depending on what you read, a recent study confirms that reading to children early and often has immense benefits on a child’s brain. We polled Colorado Mountain Doulas for their favorite books and these were the results:

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Guess How Much I love You, Snuggle Puppy, On The Day You Were Born for little kids. Snuggle Puppy is a great rhythmic story for little peeps.
For older kids, The Indian in the Cupboard, A Wrinkle in Time, The Chronicles of Narnia, The Giver and The Light in the Forest, to name a few.
The Giver was my favorite as a kid because it talks about this future Utopian society where everything is perfect and chosen for you. No pain, no danger, etc except for one job, the giver. The giver gets to know everything and uses his or her wisdom to keep society running smoothly… Or is supposed to. … I kinda like books.”

Amanda Stites

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“Jackson likes Chicka Chicka Boom Boom, but he’s only 8.5 months old. My favs are, If You Give a Mouse a Cookie & Ferdinand.”

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“We love Goldilocks and the Three Dinosaurs by Mo Willems. It makes us giggle and Adelaide pretty much has it memorized.”

Sarah Lund

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“My favorite as a child was Peter Spiers’ Rain. I love the Kevin Henkes books now- Owen, Lily’s Purple Plastic Purse, Wemberly Worried, etc.”

Jenn Leonard

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“My favorite books as a kid were The Poky Little Puppy and Courduroy the Bear. Aeden STILL loves Chrysanthemum! I’m not good with author’s names, so I didn’t even know Kevin Henkes had others.”

Ashley Conners

Ashley wrote her own blog post about favorite books. Visit her blog for her Top 5 Children’s Books While Potty Training.

A passion for helping families to make educated decisions about their families and their birth choices has lead Jenn to become a great source of information for many across the country. She has been educating families on their choices and guiding them to find their own voice in maternity care since 2002.

Jenn is a certified Labor Doula, beginning her studies with CAPPA, taking many additional trainings along the way and is recertifying with ProDoula in 2015. She is also a trained childbirth educator and Postpartum Doula teaching childbirth preparation classes, and also creating her own curriculum for a pre and early pregnancy workshop focused on families who are just beginning to plan for a family, into the 2nd trimester.

Today Jenn is the Co-owner of Colorado Mountain Doulas LLC, providing the community with much needed education, local resources, sibling, postpartum, and labor Doula services.

When she is not guiding families through their birthing year, Jenn is living in Black Forest, CO with her husband and two children on their hobby farm.

http://codoulas.com

The Last the Thing You Want to Think About During Pregnancy

The last thing you want to think about during pregnancy…no, not that.

Exercise. Yep, exercise. You’re spending all of your energy on growing a human inside of you, the last thing you want to think about is peeling yourself off the sofa at night or rolling out of the bed extra early. But exercising during a normal low-risk pregnancy can benefit you more than you think.

The key is exercising safely and responsibly. On askdrsears.com, they state “the key to safe exercise while pregnant is to work your body without stressing it or your baby’s. A general guide is—if it’s too strenuous for you, it’s too strenuous for baby.” Dr. Sears’ website also offers some other basic guidelines on exercising while pregnant. As always, consult your doctor or midwife before doing any physical activity during your pregnancy (or before your 6 week postpartum check-up).

Usually, whatever activities you have been participating in before pregnancy are usually safe to continue through most of your pregnancy. For example, runners can usually continue to run while pregnant (within limits and with care provider permission, of course).

For those that have been mostly inactive before pregnancy, starting off slow can really help to ease the transition. Moderate walking or a prenatal yoga or dance class could be beneficial and could help ease some of the discomforts of pregnancy. It can also be helpful in conditioning core and leg muscles and increasing stamina for labor.

As with anything in pregnancy or the postpartum period, when starting an exercise regimen, always consult with your provider and listen to your body. Being healthy during pregnancy can not only help your body through that long nine months but it can also aid in your labor and recovery. It’s also proven that exercise helps to boost your mood and energy levels as well.

So, get out there and find your groove and do what feels best to you and your body!

With over 4 years of experience serving families during the most exciting, overwhelming, and rewarding time in their lives, Jessica Strickland is considered an asset and irreplaceable support person for new parents and expanding families.

Jessica, a DONA trained Labor Doula and trained Postpartum Doula with ProDoula, began her journey as a doula and small business owner in 2010 after leaving a career in non-profit marketing. Her passion is in birth work and supporting families through one of the biggest transitions in their lives. Her Doula career began as the mentee of an experienced Labor Doula and since then, Jessica has expanded the services she provides to the community as well as committed herself to furthering her skills to better serve her clients including Rebozo techniques and breastfeeding education.

When she is not pursuing her passion of supporting families, Jessica is living in Colorado Springs, CO with her husband, young daughter and two dogs. She loves to travel with her family and considers herself an amateur photographer and social media enthusiast. She is also a State Co-Coordinator with Postpartum Support International, Inc. Jessica is the owner of The Birth In You Doula Services LLC.

Nutrition and Pregnancy: An Interview With Christi Trimble, SBD APPAC

Every time I speak to Christi Trimble, of Luminosa Wellness and Birth Services, I learn something new and I’m inspired to continue to strive toward my goals that, sometimes feel so far out of reach. She has a way of making you believe you can do anything!

This week I had the wonderful opportunity to chat Christi about nutrition, specifically in regards to pregnancy.


How long have you been studying/working with nutrition?

5 years.

How did you get started?

My mom has always been a fitness and health fanatic so I was kind of raised around it. Then in my early 20’s I had freedom and started to eat whatever I wanted, which was not a great idea in hindsight. Then I got married and comfy, and then pregnancy really is what propelled me back into it.

I gained almost 90 pounds by first pregnancy, then had to try and lose it. That’s where things really started for me, again, 5 years ago.

I was in a really unhealthy place back then.

It seems like pregnancy is a motivator for a lot of woman to really start paying attention to what they are putting into their bodies.

Absolutely!

I had Gestational Diabetes with my first and second baby. With #1 I was like “ok I’ll take the meds and still eat what I want” but the second go ’round was totally different.

 

We all get a little bit better each pregnancy, I think. How do you apply your nutrition experience in your work with women?

For me, they fit seamlessly together. So many times I talk to pregnant women who are experiencing very common and typical pregnancy issues that are causing stress in their daily life. Many times they can make a small dietary or daily habit change to alleviate an issue and they just don’t even realize it’s that simple. We are told to take our prenatal {vitamins} and eat a balanced diet, stay hydrated, and everything will be fine. But, so many people don’t know what a ‘balanced diet’ is, and the ideal diet for one woman is usually a little different from another. Supplements are a big deal during pregnancy, as well, but not many people really understand what’s needed, what’s not, what should be paired together for the best absorption and what shouldn’t be taken with something because they compete with each other or inhibit each other in the body. Herbal intake is another thing to be cautious with in pregnancy. Some women stay entirely away, but there are so many herbal remedies that can help with things during pregnancy. It’s just important to get good information from qualified people vs google.

Yes! There is so much misinformation out there! So, you help your clients “custom fit” their diet to what they truly need?

Exactly, everything I do is customized to mother. Each has their own needs, health concerns, things to work on. There is no one size fits all health approach for nutrition or exercise. To have your healthiest pregnancy you need a plan specific to your needs.

Currently, I’m working on setting up pregnancy and postpartum holistic health and nutrition programs. I’d like to start offering them in the fall so I can help other moms outside of those I doula for, in addition to one-on-one counseling.

The curriculum is being developed this summer and so much research and development is going into it.

That is such a worth-while pursuit and much needed! You also specialize in infertility. Can you tell me a little about that?

Yes! Before I got pregnant with my first I had a miscarriage and some infertility issues. I was able to figure out what I needed and get myself on the right track. This goes back to the no ‘one size fits all’ approach because the cause(s) of infertility really vary from woman to woman.

I Love that so much! Where did you gain your knowledge about addressing infertility?
It first started with my own personal experience. Then as I began my Holistic Health Practitioner program, that topic kept coming back around. It’s not something I specifically intended on studying. But so many women kept circling back asking for help I began to feel a real calling to learn and study and help them. I’ve lost count of all the books I’ve read and keep in my library for reference on it. It’s fascinating to discover all the ways the inner workings of our bodies are connected. And it’s such a joy to help in even a small way and contribute towards conception for a couple

With such an amazing spirit and so much that sets her apart, we are so very blessed to have Christi in our area.
Shellee is a full-time wife and mommy. She has two sweet little boys, Grey (3 years) and Linc (1 year). In her limited free-time, Shellee loves to sing, dance, write, read, crochet and watch Netflix with her hubby. She has an entrepreneurial spirit and also LOVES to serve others. She loves her job and calling as a doula and can’t imagine not supporting laboring women and their loved ones.

Shellee strives to continually grow her knowledge and understanding so that she can serve her clients in the best way possible.

http://whitelotusbirthservices.com